Author: Melissa

off!!! like a herd of turtles!

(to quote my husband's grandma)

  • Because we got a slow start today, for our seven-ish hour drive to Ohio to spend Christmas with my family.
  • Because we were driving to church on Sunday when it hit me: We were leaving on TWO DAYS. I had packed exactly nothing, had errands to run, laundry to do, the house was a disaster and had tons of wrapping to do. Great. Now I'm totally ready for this l-o-n-g drive
  • Because Monday I was a little whirlwind of activity, fueled mainly by guzzling an entire pot of coffee
  • Because I was exhausted
  • Because Colin has decided he is a newborn again and that he needs to nurse every three hours around the clock
  • Because he is just wasting away at 23 pounds. Anyway, we were late
  • Because one day is not long enough to pack up five people, all their stuff, Christmas presents, etc.
  • Because I keep forgetting things. And stuffing more and more in the van. Actually, it may take us longer then seven hours,
  • Because our van is SO FULL that it will probably not go very fast. And you may not hear from me until after Christmas
  • Because I'll probably sleep for about 24 hours straight when we get there, so if you don't hear from me…

Have a Merry Christmas!!

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santa doesn’t come to our house

Wait! Let me explain!

My husband’s family growing up didn’t do the whole Santa thing. He knew who Santa was, of course, but Santa didn’t bring the gifts on Christmas morning. Aside from the whole “Christmas is about Jesus, not Santa” thing, his parents felt that saying that ‘Santa’ brought the gifts wasn’t fair to the people (usually grandparents) who had actually given them. The kids knew about Santa, but he just wasn’t a part of their Christmas morning.

We decided to take the same route with our kids. For all the reasons my in-laws did, but also because we hate the idea of lying to our kids. When the kids ask about Santa, we tell them the story of Santa, we read Christmas books and we have a few Santa ornaments hanging on the tree. (We never say “Santa is not real” because he was real. But mostly because I would not want her to repeat that to another kid!)

We basically say in our house, we celebrate Jesus, not Santa. And our kids have always been totally cool with it. Well, they are four and five, so its not like they know the difference yet!

But a few days ago, our five-year-old asked me, “Are these Christmas stockings bad because they have Santa on them?”

So now what do we do? This could get to be a problem. I would never want her to tell another child that Santa is not real or that Santa is bad. I don’t want her to be that kid. (Remember that kid in first grade who told everyone else that he found out that Santa wasn’t real? And then you ran home to your mom and asked her if it was true? And she assured you it wasn’t, but you still waited up all Christmas Eve because you weren’t sure?)

How can I keep her from ruining another kid's Christmas?

All I can think of is to begin talking about how every family has different holiday traditions. Everyone celebrates Christmas a little differently. Some cultures have Santa, some don’t. Some people don’t even celebrate Christmas – we’ve started talking about Hanukkah, Ramadan and Kwanzaa, and I’m sure she’ll be learning more about those being in public school. I hope this will help her understand that what we do in our family may be different from other people, but it’s not necessarily right or wrong. I want her to share about our traditions, but not to feel self-conscious or – worse – self-righteous.

I want her to be proud of our family and what we do. Even if its different.

Originally posted on the Philly Moms Blog

i’m wishing….

For dinner tonight, I would like crabcakes, a yummy salad, warm, crusty rolls, filet mignon, roasted asparagus covered in salt with a glass of red wine. And something super decadant for dessert. Like creme brulee with a cup of hot coffee. Served with a few hours of quiet, uninterrupted conversation with Husband.

I will probably have leftover pasta. With two kids complaining that they don't like the shape of the pasta. And a baby either sitting in my lap trying to grab my fork or screaming because we are not shoveling the baby food in his mouth fast enough.

Sigh.

What do you want for dinner tonight? And what will you actually be having?

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a call to action

6a00d83451971c69e20105367cda58970b-320pi If you haven't heard about these upsetting new laws, that, if put into action on February 10, 2009, will have devastating repercussions to both large and small businesses and basically end the handmade goods industry, please read!!!
In summary, the Consumer Product Safety Improvement Act (CPSIA) "bans lead and phthalates in toys {obviously a good thing} but it mandates enormously expensive third-party testing and certification for all products intended for children under the age of 12. It's the ridiculous expense of the third-party testing and certification that will close businesses and make it illegal for work-at-home moms and dads to sell their handmade goods." {excerpt from 5 Minutes for Mom}

 

I urge you to take a few minutes to read the excerpt below from Cool Mom Picks, this Etsy open letter, to send out emails, letters to congress, post on your blogs, please sign this petition, visit Change.org and log your support- if it gets enough votes, it will be shown to President Obama in January.

Please do your part to insure that this law is amended so that the hundreds of creative businesses out there are not forced to shut down, surrounding our kids only with what is mass-produced by big companies!


From Cool Mom Picks:

We're all for strengthening the safety standards of mass-produced toys, clothes, and accessories made in China, and banning toxins like phthalates and lead. But this year, congress passed the ill-conceived Consumer Products Safety Improvement Act, a law which goes into effect in two months and will absolutely decimate the small toy manufacturers, independent artisans, and crafters who have already earned the public trust. The very same ones that we often feature here and in our yearly special edition gift guides.

With this act going into effect February 10 2009 so many people we love will be affected: Moms who sew beautiful handmade waldorf dolls out of home, artists who have spent decades hand-carving trucks and cars out of natural woods, that guy at the craft show who sold you the cute handmade puzzle–even larger US companies who employ local workers and have not once had any sort of safety issue will no longer be able to sell their goods. Not without investing tens of thousands of dollars into third-party testing and labeling, just to prove that toys that never had a single toxic chemical in them still don't have a single toxic chemical in them.

How to Get Involved — it only takes 5 minutes of your time!

-Find your congress person and senators and write a letter like the sample here.
Particularly if they serve on the House Subcommittee on Commerce, Trade and Consumer Protection or theHouse Committee on Small Business.

-Send an email directly to the CPSC or contact chairperson Nancy Nord at 301-504-7923

-Vote for amending the law on Change.org, digg style: With enough votes it will be presented to President Obama in January!

-Place the Save Handmade! button on your blog or website to help spread the word to everyone you know who cares about protecting the little guy and preserving beautiful items made with love for our children.

THANKS!!

 

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in case you were wondering what to get my kids for christmas…

Ellie and Grace don't need any gifts. They will just be ignoring whatever they get for gifts as they fight over whatever Colin gets.
As they have been doing all week.
Fighting over the Duplo circus set that he got from his auntie and uncle.
Despite the fact they received hundreds of dollars worth of toys this weekend from various people. Sigh.

Colin just wants more wrapping paper to eat:
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YUMMY!!

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colin – in numbers

8 – numbers of months old

2 – number of trips to the hospital

3 – number of x-rays

2 – number of black eyes he has given himself (seriously.)

8 – number of continuous hours he sleeps each night (mama loves you, colin!)

1 -number of poison control scares

2 – number of teeth

5 – number of times he has fallen off the bed

3 – number of times he has fallen off the couch

1,216 – approximate number of diapers I've changed

3 – number of blankeys he currently loves

2 – number of big sisters who beat him up regularly

1,238,483,384 – number of kisses he has received

23 – number of pounds he weighs

35 - number of pounds mama has lost trying to feed 23 pound baby

6 – number of weeks he has been sick this fall

15 – number of trips to the pediatrician

countless - pieces of paper he has eaten (his favorite toy/food)

And he's just now getting mobile. Pray for me.

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questions you should always say yes to

"Would you like whipped cream on that?"

"Mommy, will you cuddle with me?"
(Exception: It is 3am and you have just been woken up out of a dead sleep. Then you should always say "Go wake up Daddy.")

"Why don't we just order pizza so you don't have to cook?"

"Would you like to see the dessert menu?"

"Will you pray for about this?"

"Can I babysit for you guys sometime?"

"Mommy, I'm tired. Can I go to bed?"

"S.O.S!! I need a Girls Night! Are you in?"

"Margarita?"
(Warning: above question often follows previous question.)

"Mommy, can we bake cookies?"

"You look stressed. Why don't you take an afternoon to yourself this weekend while I watch the kids?"
(Sorry, ladies - I married the sweetest guy ever!)

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i will not pressure my kid to get ‘a’s.

Today we got Ellie's first report card. I am happy to report that she is average.

Utterly, completely, 100%… average.

Now, personally… I was an overachieving student. If I got an A-, I was disappointed. So I have to admit that I was a little disappointed that she only got 'average' marks. But, of course, I think my kid is brilliant. And I want her grades to show it. (Because how else will she get that full scholarship to an Ivy League school?)

I'm trying really hard not to project my insane perfectionist-tendencies onto my child. We just had a conference with Ellie's teacher and said she was doing really well.

She's only in kindergarten. I need to relax.

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