We had gone to the pool that morning. We got home and took the girls inside to get them showered and packed up for our outing that afternoon. After the girls were all dressed and settled, I began to make lunch.
"Could you bring Colin up?" I asked Husband. "He'll need to eat soon."
"Where is he?" Husband asked.
"I don't know, where did you put him when you brought him in from the car?"
"I thought you brought him in," he replied.
We looked at each other for a second. Then tore out of the house.
Colin was still in his car seat.His face was bright red, there were tear stains on his little face and he was super warm. We scooped him up and brought him in the house and began cooling him down. He wasn't even crying anymore – he was so hot and exhausted.
We had left our baby, our two-month-old baby, in the car. For over 20 minutes. In 90 degree weather. With the windows up. Even now, 4 months later, I cry when I think about him: hot, strapped in his car seat and crying. Crying for us to come get him. And we weren't coming.
The responsibility of being a parent is overwhelming. We have been entrusted with these helpless little babies. And we forget how fragile they are. Things often go so smoothly that we forget how things can change in a heartbeat. I almost lost my baby because I was distracted and careless.
It is so easy to judge when you hear about some baby who died after being left in the car. Or the toddler who is run over in their own driveway. Or the preschooler who drowns in the family pool. We're saddened, of course. But part of us thinks "What kind of careless, neglectful parent lets that happen?"
We think we're better parents than that.
Something like that could never happen to us. Only to "someone else."
We are all human. We all make mistakes, are careless or get distracted. It is by the grace of God alone that Colin is okay and we didn't end up on the news as a tragic story related to the heat wave.
And I know how we roll our eyes as the pediatrician lectures us on not leaving the baby on the changing table or about bathtub safety. Of course we know all about that. We're good parents! But there are also good parents out there who just made a simple mistake that ended up having dire consequences. And not one of us is above making mistakes.
God was merciful in protecting my baby. I was lucky.
Its taken me several months to share this with you. Because I was embarrassed and ashamed. But I needed to share. If only to show you that "someone else" was almost me.